A large family, homeschooling, adoption, special needs, whatever strikes my fancy, sort of blog.

A large family, homeschooling, adoption, special needs, whatever strikes my fancy, sort of blog.

Sunday, June 8, 2014

Sometimes I'm a Ditz Brain


The problem with blogs is that sometimes we're led to believe that life is always picture perfect.  Always educational and fun and, as my boys like to quote, "Everything is awesome!"  

I'm here to tell you, that ain't so.  

I've often looked at blogs where families with more kids that us look like they have it all together and think, "How on earth do they do it?"  Or I come across a blog that I haven't read in a while and see that they're adopting again, and wonder how they can afford to bring home so many beautiful children??  Or I'll sit in awe of the amazing things someone else is doing in their homeschool.  

Then it hit me, what if my blog causes other women to feel these things?  Inadequate.  Jealous.  Uncontent.  Well, that's not cool.  As much as I've tried to be real here, I think mostly the good things come through.  If you've ever read my blog and sighed a wistful sigh, this post is for you.  


I'm a sucker for adoption fundraisers.  Thirty One bags, Tupperware, t-shirts, I've bought it all.  It feels good to "give back" during times when we're not adopting.  And let's face it, I don't need much of a nudge to indulge in a little retail therapy.  I'm kind of a package addict.  So when a dear friend launched a Mary Kay fundraiser for her adoption, I ordered a few things in support.

Yeah, I know.  Makeup?  Really?  I hardly ever, ever wear any.  But I discovered after my stuff arrived that I really do like the lipstick pencil.

So much so, that the point dulled.  There's no twist or button to advance the product, so I asked my friend how to get to more lipstick out, and she told me to sharpen it.


I bought a sharpener.  I opened the package, and the hole was too small.  I was bummed.

But being the perseverant sort, the next time I was in a drug store (CVS, actually, when I was picking up this stuff) I went to the cosmetic tools section and looked at the sharpeners.

And then I saw it.

Right there on the package.  The SAME sharpener I already had at home.

"3 in 1 Sharpener" it said.  But, but, but!  There's only 2 holes!!  How do you get 3 in 1 out of that??


Oh.

Sigh.


If I'd been paying any attention at all, I'd have read the package before tossing it in the trash.


And, if I'd have been really smart, I'd have reached for the tweezers before shredding my thumbnail trying to get that little ring out, too.


So if it ever appears that I've got it all together, please know that I don't.  I argue with my husband (who is the most long-suffering soul you'll ever meet), I yell at my kids, I eat too many cookies, and I swear now and then.  I'm just as human as the next gal.

And if you need an awesome Mary Kay lady, who might laugh with you but never at you, I happen to know one.

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18 comments:

  1. I have a small family and always had it all together, afterall I only have 2 kids and they were/are super easy. After adopting a child, Life has been very different. Nearly 1 year later and I realize, what a huge life altering decision it was, wish now I had just chosen the typical bio route because man adoption turned our worlds upside down! We now are choosing to right size our life and have decided to move, as we build yet another home which we hope to move into, in November, and decide in the coming months what will become of our lives with regards to our child. As I read many blogs, I think of how my life used to be so together, not that I still dont have most all of life together, I do, but its a far cry to how things used to be! Too many people make the unimportant, important and I have learned even more now, that whats important to one person is not important to another, we all need to be who God created us to be. I just know for me, 3-4 kids would be my limit as anymore and I wouldnt be able to keep it all up. I marvel at those who do that everyday, as it truly is wonderful. For me, I need God, an extremely clean house, to be fit, to eat only organic and healthy foods, I need major time with my kids, and DH. I need this all to stay healthy with my medical problems and to be the me I love to be. I feel I have lost the major enthusiasm and excitement of life I used to have, and didnt realize that having a child with a SN would change me as profoundly as it has. Reading this post of yours confirmed further the plan I am doing now in my life is right, so Thank You!!! I have come to realize the importance of me being me, no superwoman, nothing but plain old me and I find myself again excited about life. I can, again read others blogs, and look at their lives as "theirs" and not what Or how I wish things would have turned out. I am at a total acceptance of things and am ol either way it goes and wow does that feel AWESOME to say that again!!!!! :-)

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    1. I'm so glad you've come to a place of acceptance! Best wishes with your move! Building a home sounds exciting, but I know it must be stressful, too.

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    2. I have built many homes, so I am used to all of this! I feel adopting a child with a SN is far harder, especially when I know my childs SN is far more then what was in the file. I love adoption and always will, but to me, its a gamble, its either the child is a fit or not and if families get the happy ending, they need to count themselves very blessed. We "seemed" to be an excellent, almost uncanny fit for our child, on paper, upon the first meeting I knew it was a huge mistake. My DH just couldn't leave her there, as she likely would have been trafficked and used, so knowing that I'm glad she is here! She is by, every countries standard of beauty, off the charts beautiful and If we choose to dissolve, eventually, she is going to have a very easy time being placed, no doubt! Sad as it will be if we go that route, I am super excited for our family and making new changes to our lives and equally excited for her, because I know in a larger family, not huge, but at least 3 siblings, that she is going to thrive and be so much happier! Not that we are boring, LOL, but 4 essentially adults only is not real fun for a little one IMHO. I tell my DH all the time, school friends, playdates are not going to cut it, another adopted child with their own issues isnt going to work for her either, neither is a needy baby I could have will help her. She needs older then her, but close in age, stable, mentoring, fun siblings to run after and have fun with. Having kiddos to play with too will give her the ability to play and play without ever getting bored. But still, we hang on, and I've come to accept where we are with her and am Ok with that. God has the ultimate plan and I will count and lean on him to lead. In the end, I'm shaking things up, as lifes too short to be miserable. And my own current neighbors can see my plan in action, literally, as I am giving alot of my possesions away to them, major, major expensive stuff away for free and wow does it feel great! I will move again to a new home, but I am reinventing my family, myself and extremely ligtening the load, all the while blessing others!!!! :-) I expect this time next year, to be living completely different and seeing my girl happy, however it needs to go. God is good and I know he wont fail any of us, his plan is always best and I look foward to seeing how it unfolds!!! :-)

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    3. I look forward to hearing how things work out for you guys, too. :)

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  2. Haha, I have totally done stuff like this!

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    1. Thanks for reminding me I'm not the only one. :)

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    2. You are definitely not the only one, Shecki! I've even complained to my doctor that my brain doesn't work anymore :) And I only have 3 kids!

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    3. 3 kids is hard! --Well, it knocked me on my butt, anyway. More kids than parents, more kids than hands... adjusting to 4 was easier than adjusting to 3, for me.

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  3. Hi Shecki! I am visiting from Jennifer's blog.
    Thank you for not making me feel like something is missing...I am hopeless with makeup. My mom never really wore any, so I don't either. Except on special occasions when I suppose I look somewhat clown-ish!

    I am the adoptive mom of two, and we were foster parents for a while too. You are greatly blessed! And twice blessed, because you know you are.
    Nice to meet you!
    Ceil

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    1. Nice to meet you, too! :) Foster parenting is such a special calling. I really enjoyed being involved with Safe Families, and would dearly love to serve in that way again someday, when we have empty bedrooms.

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  4. I've had those moments for sure! You look back and think, "Why didn't I just do xyz to fix that." HAHA! Stopping by from Jennifer's birthday bash. :)

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  5. If it makes you feel any better, I once drove away from a pizza shop with the pizza on the roof of my car. My toddler was in the back seat, kicking the back of my chair: "Mom! Pizza! Flying!"

    Sadly, no pizza for dinner that night....

    Visiting from the Shine blog hop -- greetings!

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    1. My mom did that once, too. I'm sure if I drove a shorter vehicle, I'd have done something similar by now. We saw a sippy cup on top of a car a few days ago.

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  6. Haha! If only we could really be as together as we can sometimes seem on our blogs! Thanks for being real! #blirthdaybash

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    1. LOL! If writing made it so! I could create a nice, calm, organized persona... Totally not me, but it would be nice to pretend.

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  7. Love this! I do these kind of things ALL THE TIME!

    Thanks so much for joining my #Blirthdaybash - I'm delighted to see that some wonderful guests have already paid you a visit.

    Wishing you a lovely weekend.
    xoxo

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    1. Thanks, Jennifer! And a very happy Blirthday. :) You have fun linkups on your blog.

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