A large family, homeschooling, adoption, special needs, whatever strikes my fancy, sort of blog.

A large family, homeschooling, adoption, special needs, whatever strikes my fancy, sort of blog.

Thursday, June 13, 2013

Thoughts on China

I love China. It's good to be back. Even on the airplane, hearing the announcements in Mandarin and indecipherable English, it felt like coming home in a way. When we adopted Hannah, by the time we got to GZ, Paul was ready to go home. I never hit that point. Maybe it's because being in China is like a vacation for me.

I'd forgotten about the honking. When people in the US honk, they're usually annoyed.  Drivers here just honk all the time. It is how they let each other know they're there. Almost like echolocation. The ride from the airport to the hotel in the wee hours of the morning brought it all back for me. We barely saw any other cars, and our driver still honked several times, usually while chatting amiably with our guide, so you could tell he wasn't upset at all. It's just how they do things. 

My room is on the 14th floor, and the honking below bounces off all the tall buildings around me. It's actually not an unpleasant cacophony, I'm just not used to it yet.  

I love the misinterpreted signs. I've taken pictures of a few of them.  


I'm fascinated at the way this can exist right next door to a 5 star hotel. That's taken from my window. 


And that was taken in the lobby. Actually, it would be nice if all new moms got to spend the first couple weeks in 5 star hotels.  Friendly people and amazing customer service trump nurses and BP cuffs by a long shot.  But I can imagine people asking, "Wait, you saved and scrimped and fundraised to get to China, and now you're blowing it all on super nice hotels?"  It does create a mini culture shock for me, actually.  But it's not our decision.  Agencies used to tell you exactly where to stay and it was just part of the process.  Now there's a little more flexibility.  You get to pick between 2-3 5 star hotels in each province.  I think the reason for this is two fold.  Agencies want to make sure their clients have a positive experience, overall.  And I think they want families to be safe.  Whatever the reasons, it is fascinating to stay in a place nicer than most of the places I've stayed at in the USA.  


My bathroom has a barrier across the threshold.  


You can kind of see why, as there's no containment for the shower area.  


Just a lower threshold between the bathing area and the other part of the bathroom.  I stubbed my toe on the first one the night I got here, and have been hyper aware of it ever since.  

Another fun thing about hotel life is the newspaper slid under my door every night.  I get the English version of China Daily, and this morning, I discovered Global Times, as well.  I'm going to keep an issue for Luke's memory box, so he can see what China was like when we were here.  

Elevators area are another way things are different here.  People smoke in elevators, for one thing.  For another, people think nothing of cramming 12 people and a stroller into an elevator that most Americans would consider full at half as many people.  Americans generally will wait for the next elevator.  Chinese people just scrunch up a little closer.  

Speaking of elevators, I love having the boy outside the elevator ask, "What's your number?" instead of "What floor are you on?"  It's the closest I've come to being hit on in many years, lol.

I met a European woman yesterday who spoke excellent, although somewhat accented English (I was trying to buy ice cream in the lobby and the other employees called her over to interpret).  I asked her where she was from, and she said, "Italy."  "Wow, how did you end up here?" I asked.  She told me she wanted to work in hospitality, and she didn't want to loose her Chinese.  I told her that was really impressive.  

This post was actually started before I got Luke, but the internet and my VPN are spotty here, and so I've gotten distracted and not finished or been unable to upload since.  I figure I'd better toss it out there now, or it will never get posted.  

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Just waiting



Got a 3 hour nap early this morning, then took a tepid bath (the water never got hot) and went in search of the breakfast buffet. After playing charades with the egg man, I got a couple scrambled eggs, pineapple, a piece of bacon and a piece of sausage, and, oh yeah, a potsticker and some mein. I love the breakfast buffet. I should have brought a yogurt back to the room for Luke, but I didn't remember seeing a mini fridge, so I skipped it. Now that I'm back in the room, I see that we do, in fact, have a mini fridge, stocked full of beer, soda, milk, and juice. I think I can still fit a yogurt in there tomorrow, lol. 

Once I finished breakfast, I explored a little.  I found the pool and the business room, which I may have to resort to using soon, as MY CHARGER (for my phone and iPad) IS NOT WORKING. Paul is bringing his, but I'll be out of battery long before Sunday. I think the phone will die today, actually. 

I stopped at the front desk to ask for a crib.  More charades ensued. (Rocking a baby and sleep hands to cheek.)  A little while ago, housekeeping brought up crib, bedding, stroller and baby tub. Score! 

After the crib was set up, it was looking awfully pink, so I pulled out Luke's bunny and the tag blankie I made him to neutralize the pink a little. 

6 more hours until he's supposed to be here!

From the airport

The first fight was exciting. I was so happy to finally be on my way. Now, however, I've been up more than 14 hours, and I still have a long way to go. 

 

I don't think they realize how demoralizing the slow moving airplane on the screen is. I've been sitting here for 4 hours, and we're not even half way. 

Can't actually post this until we land in Beijing, at which point I should be grateful instead of complaining. 

I've been wondering what Luke's "Gotcha" day will be like. Even though I've read hundreds of stories, watch vids on YouTube, and been through it once before, I know every child, every story, is different. I guess I'll find out in 20 hours. 

Unable to acces Facebook from Beijing airport. Hopefully I'll get it figured out at the hotel later. 

Update: at hotel. 2:30 am here. Luke arrives in 12.5 hours. Going to try to nap on this brick bed (methinks the pillow top at home has me spoiled).  Next time I post I'll either be pacing anxiously, or I'll have pictures of my baby to share!

Thanks for following along, and thanks for all the encouraging notes on Facebook. So many of you are a part of our story. Love you guys. 

Sunday, June 9, 2013

"I Could Never..."

The China adoptive community has been grieved by the deaths of two little heart patient kids who died this past week.  One of them died the day after arriving in the US, the other has been home since March.

As I read the blogs of the families affected, I found myself thinking, "I could never adopt a child I knew had a serious, probably fatal condition."  And yet, the "I could never" part of that sentence stopped me.

I think of all the times people have said things like, "You're adopting?  Wow.  I could never..."  Whether they finish that sentence with "afford to do that" (you know that foster adoption is essentially free, right?) or "love a child that wasn't mine" (um, you're not related to your husband, are you?) or some other way, it has kind of rubbed me the wrong way.  I feel like people are putting me on a pedestal I don't want to be on.  It gets worse when they find out you're adopting a child with Special Needs.  Like it's understandable to adopt a "normal" kid, but somehow exceptional to adopt a child who happens to be a little different.  It's not, and I don't want to be nominated for sainthood.  My bio kids are every bit as quirky as my adopted Special Needs child is.

I'm reminded of the saying, "If God brings you to it, He'll bring you through it."  We believe this is what God has for our family.  Obviously, those families believed the same thing.

If you look at what another family is doing and think, "I could never..." as I have so often, why not turn it around and think about what you CAN do?  I could never... adopt a child with Down Syndrome, but I CAN donate to Reece's Rainbow and fundraisers that allow other families to do so.  I am not in a position to go on mission trips right now, but I CAN pray for missionaries, and support church plant projects, and sponsor a child overseas.  Although I'm currently unable to use my crisis pregnancy center training, I CAN pass along all the baby things we are finished with to the local CPC, a cause near and dear to my heart.

As long as you are doing something, you don't need to worry about what anybody else is doing.  It doesn't have to be adoption related, or child related at all.  What are YOU passionate about?  The environment?  Animals?  The homeless?  Politics?  Slavery?  My buzz phrase with the kids lately has been, "Make the world a better place."  I think it's a hold over from my Girl Scout days.  I have a hard time walking past a piece of trash at the park.  It's easier to pick it up and throw it away.  I would love to take the kids to participate in one of the local creek clean up days, but it just hasn't happened yet.

As Kai Lan says, "Don't think about what you can't do; think about what you can do!"  One of the things you can do right now is join us in praying for the Hammond family who lost their sweet new son, John Thomas, who they called JT, and the Carr family, who lost their little girl, Zoe.


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Friday, June 7, 2013

What ELSE is going on in our house


Even though it's summer for most of the kids, it's back to the grindstone for Hannah.  And back to the weekly homework packet for me.  


I discovered these 3 boys watching Tangled this morning and promptly sent them OUTSIDE.  Even though this movie contains one of the top ten Disney songs ever.  Because morning is the time to play outside, and afternoon, when it's triple digits, blazing hot out, is the time to lay around and do nothing.  


Eli's reaction was to shoot at me.  Boys!


Brianna was on the computer this morning, printing the next pattern section to her current knitting project, a hooded scarf.  She's finished the scarf section, and is ready to start the hood.

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We recently watched this movie, as we had read aloud a biography of Gladys Aylward when we studied China.  We talked about differences between the book and the movie, and we also discussed Hollywood racial prejudices of the 1950s (the main characters are not actually Asian).

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Jack got this game for his birthday, which renewed his interest in his Leap Pad, so we finally connected the LP to the computer and downloaded the 4 free apps that came with it.  Yeah, yeah, he got it for Christmas last year.  I kept meaning to get to it.  But now, he's got something new (and FREE) to 1) capture his attention, and 2) sneak something educational into his day without being obvious about it.  

Speaking of apps...  We are going to be posting a review of an app next month.  Eli started playing with it today, and I can already tell it's going to be a winner.  Stay tuned.

Annaliese, my graduate, has 2 job interviews today!  Pretty exciting!  

Paul has Josiah and Samuel busy working on projects around the house and yard, which is AWESOME, because bored teen boys are a bad thing.  And because whatever they accomplish is something that Paul doesn't have to do himself, which means he can potentially be doing something *I* want him to do instead!  (Poor guy.)

And I leave for China in 4 days!


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Itinerary

6/11  I fly from Sac to Seattle, hang out with a friend in Seattle for a while, then hop The Big Flight to Beijing.
6/12  Arrive in Beijing 5 pm, fly out to Nanchang at 10:30.  I can only imagine what I'll do in between.  Walk around in a daze, happy to be on the ground again?  Find something to eat?  Blog?
6/13  Arrive in Nanchang in the wee hours, get taken to the hotel for a nap and a shower.
         3 pm LUKE ARRIVES at hotel.  I'm told I need to pay a 50 RMB delivery fee (about $8 USD) for the nanny to bring him to me.  Which for some reason strikes me as hilarious, but no one else finds it funny, so I guess it's just me.
6/14  Guide will take me to change US money into Chinese money, then we'll go to Civil Affairs and complete the adoption process.  (The first day, I just have temporary custody of him.  A trial period, so to speak.)  Afterwards, we'll be taken grocery shopping.
6/15  Sightseeing in Nanchang.  Tengwang Tower, and possibly a porcelain shop.
6/16  Fly to Nanning from 2:20-4 pm.  New guide meets us at airport, takes us to hotel.
         In the middle of the night, Paul's flight will arrive and our guide will bring him to the hotel.
6/17  Katie Day!
6/18  back to Civil Affairs to complete adoption, then more grocery shopping
6/19  Museum visit
6/20  Sightseeing at Green Mountain
6/21  Katie's passport will be ready, then we can fly to GZ. at 6:30 pm
6/22  Medical Exam, TB test, consulate paperwork
6/23  Safari Park
6/24  sightseeing/shopping
6/25  sightseeing/shopping
6/26  Nanue King Museum
6/27  Consulate appointment
6/28  Pick up kids' visas to enter the US
6/29  Fly home!

Now, you might be wondering, "Why so many shopping/sightseeing days?  Why can't you just go, pick up the kids, and come back home?  Wouldn't that be cheaper?"  Well, that's a good question, but it doesn't work that way.

Jiangxi province is generously allowing us to receive and adopt Luke at the end of a holiday week, but normally, all children meet their families on a Monday, and complete the adoption on a Tuesday, and pick their passports up on Friday.  We are paying a fee to expedite Luke's passport.  (The fee is certainly less than hotel, food, and guide costs for staying the full week, so it's a win-win.)

In Guangxi, where Katie lives, we will be following the regular schedule.  After the week in their child's province, American families all go to Guangzhou for a week.  The kids have a medical exam, required by the consulate, more paperwork happens, and the all-important Consulate Appointment takes place, after which the consulate will process and issue the kids' visas.  The children cannot leave China without a visa to allow them to enter the US.

So, while it looks like an action packed adventure, the reality is, those activities take place merely to fill up the time we spend waiting for all the red tape to be processed to get from "gotcha day" to when we can go home.  What we discovered with Hannah's adoption trip, is that a very happy "side effect" of all that sightseeing is a an appreciation for the wonderful nation and culture that Hannah comes from.  I can't wait to see and experience more of China this time around. 

Thursday, June 6, 2013

Blessed. Greatly Blessed.

I thought at one point that I was going to do an amazing post about packing for China, and went so far as to start it, and then fizzled out somewhere along the way and never finished.

Fortunately, I've haven't been fizzling out in other areas, and we're actually getting quite a bit crossed off the last minute to do list.

In fact, I'm finally, with 5 days to spare, packed for China.


Only... once you're packed is probably NOT the best time to remember that your suitcase was totally thrashed when you got home from China last time.  See, I don't travel all that much.  The last time I went somewhere was my bonsai trip to Nebraska in 2011, and I used a smaller suitcase then.  So I really had forgotten that the wheel assembly on the Big Suitcase in my old, decrepit set was broken.  Until I got it totally full and tried to pull it.  

Today, I needed to run out for some last minute essentials, and I needed to take Samuel for a sports physical.  (That is due 6/10.  That I found out about YESTERDAY, 6/5.  Eye roll.)  I stopped at Kohl's to check out their luggage, but I wasn't impressed with the quality for the price.  


However, when we made our Target run, I found a name I recognized at a price I could handle, so a pair of lovely purple suitcases followed me home (the big one and the carry on).  

After we got home, I proceeded to unpack the old suitcases and repack in the new ones, and I've got the big one just under 50#.  Sweet success.  

Such a feat required a little siesta to recover from (or maybe it was being out all morning with Samuel and Brianna who bicker for sport).  When I awoke, I discovered that a lovely friend had stopped by the house and left this on our porch:  


Flowers and Gymboree boxes!  


Cute gifts for the little ones.  We really are getting so close I can almost taste it.  And I'm getting to the point where Katie and Luke aren't going to be able to share the 4 drawer dresser much longer.  :)  A nice problem, to be sure.  Of course, I do have more than one season in there, so it's not totally excessive, but each baby has 2 drawers, and they're getting rather full.  


Another friend sent me a special package this week in the mail.  A carrier, and some winter things for Katie to grow into.  I think if the blue & white Paris shirt was short sleeved, it would fit Hannah.  Cute stuff!  I really am greatly blessed.



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Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Stop the merry go round, I want off!

With 6 days until I leave, I'm busy crossing things off my pages long To Do list.  One of those items was Make Dr. Appts for Katie & Luke.  See, when newly adopted kids come home, it's a good idea to have appointments lined up to get them checked out, take care of any parasite issues that may be going on, and have blood work drawn.  Just a general physical to get a handle on any surprises that may pop up.

So I call.  "Hi, I'm adopting 2 children, and I'd like to make an appointment to get them checked out after we get home from China."  Our doc is out on maternity leave, of course, and does not come back until the END of July.  No problem, I say, we'll see anybody.  Not my preference, of course, but I'm trying to be flexible.  That seems to be my theme word lately:  Flexible.

The receptionist says Dr S is not taking new patients.  Understandable, given that she's on maternity leave, but last month, when I went in to see her (for travel meds), she said she would take them.  I explain this, and that myself and 4 of the kids are already her patients.

She asks who our insurance is.
"Blue Shield"
HMO?
"yes"
Are they assigned to Dr S on your insurance?
"They're not ON our insurance yet.  I'm leaving in 6 days to go GET them."
If they're not on your insurance, I can't book the appointment.
"What??"
If they don't have insurance we can't see them.  Call back after they're on your insurance and schedule an appointment then.
(taking a deep breath or two)  "The paperwork to add them to our insurance will be submitted by my husband's employer on the 17th, after we take custody of the children.  I will be IN CHINA until 6/29.  If I call back on July first, you will not have any appointments available for the first week of July, when they need to be seen."
That's correct.
"So you can see my concern."
I can't book the appointments if they're not on your insurance.  If Blue Shield calls us, because Dr. S is not taking new patients, and asks if she'll accept them, we'll tell them yes.
(biting my tongue)  "Can we just book the appointments to hold the spot?  The kids WILL BE on the insurance when we come in."
We don't accept self pay patients.
"Surely you can see the uniqueness of our situation.  The forms will be submitted while we're in China.  The kids will be on our insurance when we come in for the appointments.  I understand that you don't accept self pay patients.  I just want to hold a spot so that they can be seen as soon as we come home.  They will be insured when we come in."
Well, I'll have to ask my supervisor.
"Yes!  That's an excellent idea.  Let's ask your supervisor."  [I get put on hold again and do some serious muttering under my breath.]

I hold, and hold, and hold.  And then get cut off.  Lovely.  I call back and explain my situation to a new person, who takes my name and number and says someone will call me back.

The receptionist calls back.  Her supervisor told her she could book the appointments, but that they would verify the insurance 3 days before the appointment, and if they couldn't verify the insurance, they would cancel the appointments.  Never mind that 3 business days before the appointment I'll be IN CHINA.  Sigh.  So we schedule the visit for July 3, first thing in the morning.

Then she starts to add the new patients to the computer.  "Can I get Katianna's social security number?"  She doesn't have one yet.  "Oh.  Well how old is she?"  She's 2.  "So will she have one when you come in?"  Sigh.  No, it takes a while for them to get a SSN.  We're going through immigration on 6/29.  Immigration will forward paperwork to Social Security, and they will issue a number and mail us a card.  (Which will be in her Chinese name, which would TOTALLY confuse this woman, so we're just not going there.)  "Oh."  Tap, tap, tap, a few more questions.  "Okay, so we'll see Katianna at 8 on 7/3.  What's the other child's name?"  Luke.  "Same last name?"  Same last name.  We do DOB, address, phone number.  "Does Luke have a Social Security number?"  [silent head banging]  No, not yet.  Did you miss the part where these kids are currently Chinese citizens?? What would they be doing with US SSNs?  "Okay.  Well, we'll see him at 8:30.  You should probably come early, because I think they'll have new patient forms for you to fill out."  Ya think?

According to my phone, it took, I kid you not, 30 minutes of phone time to book the appointments for Katie and Luke to be seen by some random doctor after we get home.  I feel like I should get to cross more than one thing off the list after all that.


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Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Fun News

I've been accepted as an affiliate for Little Passports!  All year long, we've had fun with them, as we've learned about different countries.  (You can click HERE to see us enjoying the contents and projects.)


Whether you're looking for a fun summer enrichment, or something to supplement next year's homeschool curriculum, or you just have a kid who loves to get mail, I hope you'll check out Little Passports.  We have been very happy with their products.

Not only to they have an Around The World program, but they also have a 50 States program, as well!

Monday, June 3, 2013

New Photo!

As I've been emailing back and forth with our agency's in China rep to hammer out travel issues, I remembered that he had actually met Katie when he translated for agency personnel at her orphanage last year.  He was the one who labelled her with the English name "Jessica" for advocacy purposes. (She was never actually called Jessica; when we got her file, it was labelled with the file name Jessica.)


This morning, I woke up to that most precious gift any waiting parent can receive:  a photograph. Even though it's over a year old, it's one I hadn't seen before. When you only have a few pictures of your child's first 3 years of life, each one is precious. 

I'm thrilled to see toys on floor in the background.  I think I've mentioned we didn't see any toys when we were at Hannah's orphanage.  Toys on a shelf could be props, but toys on the floor indicates to me that the kids at Katie's facility really are playing with them.  15 more days until Katie Day.  11 more days until Luke days, and only 8 more days until I leave!  


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Sunday, June 2, 2013

Random bits


How cute are these guys??
My mom, "Grammy" to the kids, brought these little sweeties up for Katie and Luke when she was here for the graduation. 
The purple hearts are the paper chain Brianna made for me.  It's getting shorter!  


It's not a great picture of the dress, but I made this 3 years ago while we were waiting for Hannah, and this was her first time wearing it.  It's fully lined with a ruffled muslin underskirt for poofiness, and has matching bloomers.  So fun to finally see her wear it.  


These guys.  I swear, all I did was blink.  Who told them they could get so big??  
(And why is Eli making that face?)

Our wait has finally hit single digits!  
I'm leaving in 9 days!
And I just realized that my To Do Before Going To China list still has way more than 9 things on it.  
Mostly things I don't feel like doing.


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Saturday, June 1, 2013

Last Call

We're getting down to the wire.  Travel is THIS MONTH!  I'm so very excited!
We'll be wiring funds to China this coming week to cover our guides, in country flights, etc.

I want to take a moment to thank everyone who has contributed to our adoption in any way.  Purchasing shirts, curriculum, necklaces, coffee, restaurant gift cards.
Donating to Reece's Rainbow, or our Brittany's Hope matching grant.
Shopping through our Amazon link.
And those who've mailed checks.

Thank you.  

It means more to me than you'll ever know, to have your support.

Having said that, we're winding things down now.  Reece's Rainbow and Brittany's Hope have both mailed our agency their checks.  I'll be pulling down our CoupAide button.

CoupAide Adoption Fundraising
So, if you would like to purchase a restaurant voucher, please do so by Monday night.

Just Love allows their families to keep their storefronts open to help cover the expense of parenting kids with special needs, so you can continue to order your great coffee through our link.
Our Amazon.com affiliate link:  http://www.amazon.com/?&tag=greatbless-20&linkCode=wsw will also continue to be active.  Monies earned through Amazon will now be turned into merchandise from either our Adoption Wish List or our Homeschool Wish List.  

If there is anyone who would like to donate to our last minute travel costs, you may do so through PayPal:


This is it.  The end of the fundraising.
Thank you for your patience with us as we've done everything possible to make this happen.

Now, as we get ready to actually leave, please pray for safe travel and smooth transitions.  I can't wait to be posting pictures of Luke, and then Katie, and then (almost) our whole family when we get home.  

Homeschool Weekly Wrap Up - End of Year

Well, for most of us, it's the end of the year.  Hannah still goes the entire month of June.  But the high schoolers are finished, and the homeschoolers are just finishing up dribs and drabs at this point.


Brianna didn't have coconut on hand when we were studying Australia, but Paul came to the rescue, remembering to pick some up so she could make ANZAC biscuits a little late.  (Australia New Zealand Army Corps--ANZAC)  The pink food coloring was her own addition.


Our Little Passports friend for Antarctica, a penguin.  


This is what happens when a sewing mama has to give a map test.  


And here are my students, studiously labeling all the countries they can identify from memory.  



We did a pretest at the beginning of the year, and a post test at the end.  


I love this.  


I can quantify something.  I can point to it and say, "Look!  Jack learned 20 countries this year!  Eli learned 25!  And Brianna learned a whopping 56, thank you JetPunk."  


I'm really proud of them.


Turns out, maps weren't the only things that changed from beginning to end of the school year.  They traced their hands the first week of school, and I retraced them this week.  It's amazing how much they grow in such a short time.  


Our last art project of the school year.  Salted watercolor snowflakes


(or random camouflage painting, if you're Eli)


Now we're on to the business of cleaning out binders, organizing the school room, and getting rid of things we don't need.  


Oh, and finishing up a last spelling test.


Before we spend a whole lot of time this summer doing this.  


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