I don't normally post controversial issues. Mine is a fluffy blog about raising a big family, and adoption, and whatever else pops into my head. So this feels weird for me, but I'm genuinely interested.
Wow, what a loaded word.
Recently there has been a lot of "chatter" on Facebook about gay rights. I'm friends with a lot of people with different belief systems than myself, and most of the time that's great. But lately, it seems like all the Pro-Gay stuff is also Anti-Christian, which is very off putting. (Probably because so many Christians are Anti-Gay, I'm starting to understand.)
I love the blog world. I love seeing how other families do their thing. I love the challenge of thinking about something from another viewpoint. I love looking at pictures of cute adopted kids.
If you follow my rabbit trail to how I got to thinking about homosexuality, it goes like this:
I was reading this blog which linked to this post which linked to this post. Are you with me so far? Okay. Having read all of those, my mind was spinning. The final link *really* challenged my thinking. Gay and Christian in the same sentence? In the same person??
I hope you'll hear my heart in this. I don't hate anybody. But I was raised In Church, and fairly sheltered. And I went to Christian schools, starting in junior high. I got married young, had a bunch of kids, and surrounded myself with people fairly similar to myself. Honestly, I don't know even one gay person.
I know that Jesus loves everyone, including gay people. And I know that I've been taught all my life that homosexuality is wrong.
So when I start asking questions, I hope you'll take hear them from my ignorant point of view, not a bigoted one.
Setting aside the question of whether being gay is a choice or not, mainly because I haven't fully wrapped my head around that yet, here are some question I would love to have answered, both from a Side A and a Side B point of view.
For those who are Christian, and I know this sounds weird, but hear me out, what difference does it make if you're gay or not? Sex outside of marriage is sin in the Bible. So anyone, whether gay or straight, who is in a sexual relationship outside of marriage is sinning. Why do gay Christians who are committed to celibacy need to make a big deal about their sexuality? Sex and fantasies are supposed to be private, right?
It's funny, because as I ponder this, I feel like I'm asking a Jew in 1940 Germany to "pass" as gentile. It's not that I'm trying to shove the issue (or the people) back into the closet for my own comfort, it's more, why is this a big deal? Why flaunt your gayness? Why the need to be part of the "gay culture," which, admittedly, I know very little about.
Here's my analogy: Homosexuality is no bigger a sin than any other sin. Take stealing for instance. It's wrong, right? But if I think about taking something, am I better off trying to put the thought out of my head, or am I better off hanging out with thieves and endorsing their exploits? Which one is going to lead me further into temptation?
If I'm way off base here, and I freely admit the possibility, please gently share so I can understand. I'm not talking about the non-Christians, who don't think religion should govern what they do in the bedroom. I can understand that. I'm talking about, and this feels weird to type, Christian gay people.